Hey TW,

Sorry to hear you're so down. Your husband is displaying classic signs of addiction. Food is his drug and it has become his mistress. In addiction the addict would rather embrace his drug of choice than anything else, even sex. It is his first love. And I like you am very weary comming in a distant second to my carbs. and sugar.

New to the board here, but just wanted to let you all know (again) you are not alone. The thought of sex with chubby hubby is disgusting and I have managed to avoid it for a couple of years. He is so fat, he does not even try anymore, which I suppose is just as well. Even though I am in my 50's, I still have a sex drive and still look good. So, just like you all, I am hungry for sex and due to many reaons, primarily financial, I cannot divorce. I am stuck. Thanks for listening.

Lean Wife,

We are just fine with listening. Please feel free to post here, your welcome.

Thanks for finding us!!!

well, if you're ever in town, leanwife... ; )

I'm sure it is common to joke about that here...

The problem is that we could all get to the point that that becomes a real temptation.

We've got a whole forum full of admittedly sexually frustrated adults.

I doubt that people would fly in from Australia or Europe just to shag a stranger on the anti fat forum.

You would be surprised, Poolboy...

I know for a fact that people have traveled 2100 miles across the continental US to meet up with each other (From this site).

Don't underestimate desperate horny people.

The funniest thing I have read today.

And unfortunately so true.

The last time (it has been over a year) I had this light bulb go on my head after. It was like I could hear a voice saying, "See, this is NOT your fault!"

I really need to listen to that voice and stop with the guilt....

Chris wrote:

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You would be surprised, Poolboy...

I know for a fact that people have traveled 2100 miles across the continental US to meet up with each other (From this site).

Don't underestimate desperate horny people.

I just find this funny and I wouldn't look down on these people at all. I just feel sad that it had to go this far for them to get fulfillment that should have been provided by their significant other.

I honestly hope the experience was worth it and rewarding for them cause, right or wrong morally, I believe they deserve(d) any possible fulfillment they could have obtained from this.

Chris wrote:

QUOTE:
You would be surprised, Poolboy...

I know for a fact that people have traveled 2100 miles across the continental US to meet up with each other (From this site).

Don't underestimate desperate horny people.

That's pretty crazy!


On another note, I have shared here one time before (I think), without detail, that I, unlike many others, have never had my sex life suffer because of my weight. And now that I'm losing weight, my husband recently told me he's "ready every night", rather than every couple nights

The one thing that has changed though is, he is much more affectionate, in general, than before. Now that, for me, is taking some time to get used to, and for many reasons. I think mainly that, because I haven't recieved a lot of physical attention from him without sex following (for many years), I'm simply not used to his new treatment. And because I've gone without a lot of daytime, physical affection (hugs, quick kisses, etc.) from him, I've gotten accustom, and comfortable, without it.

I also am still dealing with coming to peace with the respect issue I have for him. Not because he wants to be more affectionate, or wants to have sex even more than before, it's just his treatment of me while I struggled for so many years to finally get to this place. I feel like, he couldn't be nice to me then (which, with my personality, would have helped me greatly), but now he - without any personal effort on his part, for the better of our relationship - gets all the benefits of my hard work?!?! It's just somehow not right!

Because I enjoy intimacy with him, I don't pass the opportunity by; however, I look forward to the day when I don't harbor those feelings in my heart. Physically, things are great, but I would like to feel as great in my head/heart, too. So, as with everything else, I suppose it will take time.