This lady gives some decent advice to a semi-delusional fat wife....
http://blogs.news.com.au/bossy/index.php/news/comments/my_husband_doesnt_find_my_size_22_body_attractive_should_i_leave_him_now/

Bossy has linked to us in the past.

She doesn't buy into the PC arguments concerning fat and relationships.

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I would go out with my female friends (all who are slim) and I would come home with more phone numbers, pash attacks (kisses) and free drinks than them because I was a confident person.

I notice how quick ooops (some) fat females are to tell us and others this when the their size is questioned. Why????

They want to tell us how HAWT they are but want to get us to scold those who don't find them so??

I find this behavior suspicious????

If, as her story implies, her husband lied to her about his feelings repeatedly over a long period of time, I can understand her feeling betrayed. I would like to see anyone whose spouse lies like that, learn to become more independent, so their self-image is not as controlled by their spouse's behaviour. I would also like to see her husband see a doctor and probably a counsellor about his low sex drive and continual dishonesty; they're possibly signs of depression.

That's a tough one to answer. But realistically he fell in love with her before he had to make love to her. He could be sexually turned off by having to be with a size 22.

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Our sex life started after we were married due to religious views...

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You didn't have sex before you married, so maybe he wasn’t really able to make a definite judgement on the matter of sex and attraction.

That kind of happened to me as well. I didn't know what she really looked like until after we were married. However, my girl was at her largest (while I've known her) a size 14 I think (40-50lbs overweight). I would have never given her a second (or first) thought if she'd been a size 22. Nope. Ain't no way. Sorry. I may have been naive, but not completely out of my mind. So I have to wonder why he got involved with her in the first place... but maybe she manages to dress well for a size 22. Who knows...

Excellent article, and I'm happy about how honest "Bossy" was. Told it like it was, no sugar coating.

Chris wrote:

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Bossy has linked to us in the past.

She doesn't buy into the PC arguments concerning fat and relationships.

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I would go out with my female friends (all who are slim) and I would come home with more phone numbers, pash attacks (kisses) and free drinks than them because I was a confident person.

I notice how quick ooops (some) fat females are to tell us and others this when the their size is questioned. Why????

They want to tell us how HAWT they are but want to get us to scold those who don't find them so??

I find this behavior suspicious????

Some fat females share that type of information because there's a gross misconception in society that fat women don't get positive male attention, because of their body shape. I can completely relate to fat women who share this information because I've never been without male attention, even at my heaviest; however, I couldn't care less about "scolding" men who don't find fat/overweight women attractive. I have strong, physical preferences regarding the opposite sex, so I respect everyone's right to have a physical preference, as it pertains to their desired mate. Some men like really fit/slim women. Some men really like fat women. Some men are rather indifferent, as long as there are other solid aspects of the relationship. And what I've found is this, for every man who doesn't find fat women attractive, there are 10, or more, that do. So, to each their own.

But I certainly agree with Chris regarding fat women who want to talk about the male attention they get but "scold" the men who don't find their body shape attractive. They are suspicious. Reason being, when a woman is confident in her ability to attract a lot of men, she isn't worried about the ones she isn't attracting - she's too busy.

Sunshine08 wrote:

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...there's a gross misconception in society that fat women don't get positive male attention, because of their body shape.

Totally agree. Guys make jokes with there friends about fat chicks, but the three most popular women I've ever mat were fat. A number of their conquests were guys already in relationships. It's not just the skinny grass that looks greener!

Ajay wrote:
[quote]Sunshine08 wrote:

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...there's a gross misconception in society that fat women don't get positive male attention, because of their body shape.

Totally agree. Guys make jokes with there friends about fat chicks, but the three most popular women I've ever mat were fat. A number of their conquests were guys already in relationships. It's not just the skinny grass that looks greener!


Sure FAT not OBESE.
A bit on the chubby side, absolutely women can get male attention.
But in most cases here, we aren't talking about 15-25lbs, we're talking about 50-100lbs. Big difference!

The best part of the advice was the part when she suggested she and her husband get help and that she act like a woman of substance and not fall apart at the first marital challenge. I am paraphrasing.

The advice seeker never mentioned if she was a size 22 when they first got together so that is suspicious. It amazes me how one can dismiss importance of the other's needs and over emphasize their own. She pries and pestered her husband until he finally relents and tells her the truth as kindly as he can and she is ready to divorce. Wow. I guess the religious aspects only come into play at her convenience. The husband quickly apologizes for being honest and buys her flowers and showers her with affection in a manner reminiscent of taking care of a spoiled child. I really hope she gets professional help.

Sunshine08 wrote:

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Chris wrote:

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Bossy has linked to us in the past.

She doesn't buy into the PC arguments concerning fat and relationships.

QUOTE:
I would go out with my female friends (all who are slim) and I would come home with more phone numbers, pash attacks (kisses) and free drinks than them because I was a confident person.

I notice how quick ooops (some) fat females are to tell us and others this when the their size is questioned. Why????

They want to tell us how HAWT they are but want to get us to scold those who don't find them so??

I find this behavior suspicious????

Some fat females share that type of information because there's a gross misconception in society that fat women don't get positive male attention, because of their body shape. I can completely relate to fat women who share this information because I've never been without male attention, even at my heaviest; however, I couldn't care less about "scolding" men who don't find fat/overweight women attractive. I have strong, physical preferences regarding the opposite sex, so I respect everyone's right to have a physical preference, as it pertains to their desired mate. Some men like really fit/slim women. Some men really like fat women. Some men are rather indifferent, as long as there are other solid aspects of the relationship. And what I've found is this, for every man who doesn't find fat women attractive, there are 10, or more, that do. So, to each their own.

But I certainly agree with Chris regarding fat women who want to talk about the male attention they get but "scold" the men who don't find their body shape attractive. They are suspicious. Reason being, when a woman is confident in her ability to attract a lot of men, she isn't worried about the ones she isn't attracting - she's too busy.

I agree with you that physical appearances are important in some regard and that there should not be any pressure for us to prefer one look over the other.

These large women can get the attention of other men because those men have that kind of preference. There is someone for everyone but I bet if those large women were to all of a sudden lose a lot of weight those men would feel misled just as much as men in other relationships see their partner gain weight. The concept makes sense.

If you (not directed at you Sunshine) are attractive to your SO and then change yourself you should not act surprised by their reaction. I don't want to make this a guy thing or woman thing because this applies to both genders. If you change in a manner that is not in your partner's favor they are not going to like it.