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 | If you have been watching the news lately, I am sure that you have heard of the "Obesity Epidemic". Marriages are not immune to the effects of this issue. This site will focus on the situation where one partner becomes, or remains obese and the other spouse maintains a thinner physique, or succeeds in becoming thinner. | |
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The Answers You Are Looking For! |
| | Did you find what you were searching for? If you are really looking for answers PLEASE visit the forum by clicking here! Find other people who are in YOUR situation, and who will discuss with you what can be done about it | |
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Don't Buy the 'Fat Gene' Myth |
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If there's one thing worse than the awesome American obesity epidemic, it's
saying that nothing can be done about it. Sadly, this has become a cottage industry in our country.
It ranges from books with titles like Your Fat Is not Your Fault, to
Big Is Beautiful! magazine covers, to fat activist groups, to newspaper
articles like the recent Post one, "Battle Your Biology? Fat Chance" (New
York Post, July 11).
True, telling people what they need to hear as opposed to what they want to
hear is not the route to fame, fortune and the best-seller list. But here
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Fat Is Bad For Married Sex |
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 | Does the idea of having sex with your fat spouse really get you excited? With the exception of a few people with “fat fetishes”, having sex with your fat wife or husband either feels obligatory, or meets the bare standard of releasing your pent-up sexual desire. The overweight partner has even greater issues when it comes to sex, which often goes beyond the psychological. The desire to have sex with a trim sexy partner isn’t a fabricated Hollywood myth; the science behind sexual interest in fit bodies is real and has been confirmed over and over, it is undeniable to a reasonable person.
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Telling Your Spouse (The Soft Way) |
 | I think that as time has evolved in my situation, I’ve learned some lessons that I’d like others to gain the benefit from. Hence, I am writing this guide to bringing it up with your loved one as a FIRST TIME APPROACH. I’ll also include my list of WHAT NOT TO DO and tenets of support. Yes, you are going to have to play a real role and work at this to make it work. But your relationship is worth it, isn’t it? | |
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 | Denial is a psychological defense mechanism that a person may exhibit, as a way to avoid confronting uncomfortable realities. Often we hear of this mechanism in relationship to death or someone dealing with a substance abuse issue. Denial can apply to the Fat Spouse situation as well. It is not at all uncommon for the fat spouse to practice denial as a way to avoid coming to terms with their weight and doing anything about it. | |
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It is no coincidence as excuse making has become more and more acceptable; the waist lines of Americans have spiraled out of control. These days, a simple excuse is considered “just as good” as achieving success. It seems that no one is responsible for the results of their actions, or in these cases their inactions! The excuses for gaining weight, and not exercising, or eating right, have grown in proportion to our bellies and thighs. Here is a brief primer of the excuses I hear, and my attempt to debunk them.
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 | When traveling down the isles of of the grocery store it is hard not to notice the huge influx of what should be called "diet junk food." Previously diet food meant bland, or barely edible low calorie food. Diet snacks used to mean something akin to a styro-foam textured rice cakes, or a half the flavor and half the calories baked potato chip. Recently the food marketers have discovered that by simply shaving a few calories off of a cookie, or dropping a gram or two of fat out of a rich ice cream treat, | |
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 | You would have to be living in an isolated cabin in Montana not to have heard of the term "enabler". Basically an enabler is a person that allows another person, in a relationship, to continue with destructive behaviors by covering for them, and helping them out of bad situations caused by their poor judgment. While we typically think of the terms "co-dependency" and "enabler" as terms in dealing with chemical dependencies, it can apply equally to the "fat spouse" situation |
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